Many thanks to ForeverFail.com for this rather alarming example of what I and many of you reading this have surely become painfully tired of seeing.
Everyone wants to feel important in some regard. Everyone wants to feel desired. We all do; and those out there who make it their priority to state that they don't want these things are probably the ones that want it the most.
That's no secret or recent development. That's common knowledge.
It should be, at least.
Don't get me wrong: There is absolutely nothing wrong with one desiring to be needed or wanting to feel important. I've always had a well documented "beef," however with those who aim to gain that notoriety, importance, power or whatever else they feel they need from their "haters."
What is it with those people?
Seriously. I have never and likely will never understand that. My confusion won't stave off my elaboration about how ridiculous this whole "Hater Love" movement of sorts is, though.
This ridiculous fad (and yes; that's what I perceive it as) has no real traceable origin at all (trust me. I've checked already); but it still makes itself ever present in modern culture; especially the portion of that culture that is connected to social media.
We constantly see in posts on Facebook, tweets on Twitter, Instagram photos and other social mediums the "Hi Haters,""Shout out to my haters,""I wanna thank my haters out there" and ever so popular "I love my haters" statements that are usually followed by some ridiculous reason why they are offering such congratulatory remarks to those that they aim to infuriate:
"Shout out to all my haters that wish they could be the first to own these new Jordans!"
~Or~
"I wanna thank all the haters out there. I know you see the new Lincoln sitting outside!"
~Or Even~
"I love my haters. All of you. You can't make a grilled cheese sandwich this good, huh?"
Feel that sinking in your stomach right now?
That's the humiliation that you feel; regardless of whether you've said something along the lines of these statements, you're friends with someone who says this crap or you've just read or heard it from someone.
That's right. It's a residual effect. It sours everyone around who hears, reads or speaks such ignorance in a sincere or proclaiming fashion.
It's not empowering in any capacity. It is rather expository, however.
*This is the moment in the entry where we give people who consistently use the "Hi Hater" fad time to go look up words that they may not have understood up to this point. You know: words like "Expository" for instance. We allow them this portion of time because their ignorance in this practice implies that they have no shame in exposing how little they may actually know outside of ignorant means. For everyone else who understands this terminology, let's just standby for a minute or so.*
Welcome back.
As I previously stated, those who push this nonsense to the point where they actually feel empowered by it are making themselves seem very expository. Very self-explained.
When you go out of your way to post something like this, there are some things that other people see that you may have to start recognizing for yourself...
First of all, how dare you even use something as undeniably delicious as tater tots to express your groundless lust for attention?
The tots, man?! Really?!
What's wrong with you?!?!?!?!
Honestly, though:
All you're really saying with all of those posts, tweets and photos dedicated to your haters is that you aren't mature enough to stand on your own portion of accumulated confidence.
You are stating that there is a dire need for people to pay attention to you; and if you can't seem to find a civil and unobtrusive means of garnering that attention, then you are completely at home with pissing off other people just to get them to take notice.
You are among those who get so hyped up when you listen to rappers that use this means of empowerment. As a matter of fact, maybe this whole fad started with Shawty Lo....
..........you remember him, right?
"BIG UPS............TO ALL MY HATERS!!!!"
Yeah. That guy.
Its sickening and ultimately disparaging to see how we effortlessly migrate from one fad in music media to another - from "Hi Haters" to "Dat S**t Cray" to that "Turn Up" crap - yet we can't stand alone on our own when it comes to self empowerment.
You even look at your sports media for a wholesome sense of empowerment and you'll see this...
Really classy, James. That and that video you posted on YouTube. Oh how the masses have come to look upon your glory and *cough* "modesty" in that glory.
A conversing I've recently had with my wife reminded me that there was a time where one acknowledged haters in a powerful, self-uplifting, respectable connotation. There was once a time where people who were privy to criticism and doubt from others gracefully reminded those same detractors of their claims once they emerged victorious. This was done as a means of proving one's doubters wrong while also proving to oneself that he or she was more than capable of achieving what was desired.
Nowadays, however such means have been replaced by those who in every idiotic manner conceivable clamor for the negative attention of others in a half-witted way to motivate themselves. It truly disgusts me to see the self-absorbed only step away from themselves long enough to draw others to them by enraging them.
What is even more demeaning and pathetic are those who like to pretend that there are that many people who can't stand them just to gain some popularity among others.
What I wonder about all those out there who "embrace" their haters so much is if they realize just how much of that hate that they desire from others they may have contributed to themselves. That's what is actually going on, to be totally honest.
Think about it.
Think about the insecurity.
The doubt.
The self-loathing.
The regret.
All those things that have shrouded that person's judgment; causing one to curse, dislike or hate the way they are instead of finding solace in their individuality.
So if this does sound even somewhat like what you are going through. Just go ahead and ask your self one question:
You owe yourself an answer.
Oh, and to those of you out there that feel like you need to broadcast how you "Don't care what the next person says" because you're "gonna do you anyway," I mean this with all sincerity when I say that you would be amazed at how many of us really aren't paying you any attention when you say that. We know that you're itching for the same attention. The only difference between you and the "Hater Lovers" is that you're trying to display some semblance of independence in hopes of materializing a reputation in front of others.
Just as needy. Not very sneaky.
Everyone wants to feel important or needed or desired.
There still is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
Unless you need to create negativity to do so.
Respect can be gained without compromising individual positivity. That's what I've been told, anyways. Find out for yourself if there is any truth to that claim.
"Shout out to all my haters that wish they could be the first to own these new Jordans!"
~Or~
"I wanna thank all the haters out there. I know you see the new Lincoln sitting outside!"
~Or Even~
"I love my haters. All of you. You can't make a grilled cheese sandwich this good, huh?"
Feel that sinking in your stomach right now?
That's the humiliation that you feel; regardless of whether you've said something along the lines of these statements, you're friends with someone who says this crap or you've just read or heard it from someone.
That's right. It's a residual effect. It sours everyone around who hears, reads or speaks such ignorance in a sincere or proclaiming fashion.
It's not empowering in any capacity. It is rather expository, however.
*This is the moment in the entry where we give people who consistently use the "Hi Hater" fad time to go look up words that they may not have understood up to this point. You know: words like "Expository" for instance. We allow them this portion of time because their ignorance in this practice implies that they have no shame in exposing how little they may actually know outside of ignorant means. For everyone else who understands this terminology, let's just standby for a minute or so.*
Welcome back.
As I previously stated, those who push this nonsense to the point where they actually feel empowered by it are making themselves seem very expository. Very self-explained.
When you go out of your way to post something like this, there are some things that other people see that you may have to start recognizing for yourself...
First of all, how dare you even use something as undeniably delicious as tater tots to express your groundless lust for attention?
The tots, man?! Really?!
What's wrong with you?!?!?!?!
Honestly, though:
All you're really saying with all of those posts, tweets and photos dedicated to your haters is that you aren't mature enough to stand on your own portion of accumulated confidence.
You are stating that there is a dire need for people to pay attention to you; and if you can't seem to find a civil and unobtrusive means of garnering that attention, then you are completely at home with pissing off other people just to get them to take notice.
You are among those who get so hyped up when you listen to rappers that use this means of empowerment. As a matter of fact, maybe this whole fad started with Shawty Lo....
..........you remember him, right?
"BIG UPS............TO ALL MY HATERS!!!!"
Yeah. That guy.
Its sickening and ultimately disparaging to see how we effortlessly migrate from one fad in music media to another - from "Hi Haters" to "Dat S**t Cray" to that "Turn Up" crap - yet we can't stand alone on our own when it comes to self empowerment.
You even look at your sports media for a wholesome sense of empowerment and you'll see this...
Really classy, James. That and that video you posted on YouTube. Oh how the masses have come to look upon your glory and *cough* "modesty" in that glory.
A conversing I've recently had with my wife reminded me that there was a time where one acknowledged haters in a powerful, self-uplifting, respectable connotation. There was once a time where people who were privy to criticism and doubt from others gracefully reminded those same detractors of their claims once they emerged victorious. This was done as a means of proving one's doubters wrong while also proving to oneself that he or she was more than capable of achieving what was desired.
Nowadays, however such means have been replaced by those who in every idiotic manner conceivable clamor for the negative attention of others in a half-witted way to motivate themselves. It truly disgusts me to see the self-absorbed only step away from themselves long enough to draw others to them by enraging them.
What is even more demeaning and pathetic are those who like to pretend that there are that many people who can't stand them just to gain some popularity among others.
What I wonder about all those out there who "embrace" their haters so much is if they realize just how much of that hate that they desire from others they may have contributed to themselves. That's what is actually going on, to be totally honest.
Think about it.
Think about the insecurity.
The doubt.
The self-loathing.
The regret.
All those things that have shrouded that person's judgment; causing one to curse, dislike or hate the way they are instead of finding solace in their individuality.
So if this does sound even somewhat like what you are going through. Just go ahead and ask your self one question:
You owe yourself an answer.
Oh, and to those of you out there that feel like you need to broadcast how you "Don't care what the next person says" because you're "gonna do you anyway," I mean this with all sincerity when I say that you would be amazed at how many of us really aren't paying you any attention when you say that. We know that you're itching for the same attention. The only difference between you and the "Hater Lovers" is that you're trying to display some semblance of independence in hopes of materializing a reputation in front of others.
Just as needy. Not very sneaky.
Everyone wants to feel important or needed or desired.
There still is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
Unless you need to create negativity to do so.
Respect can be gained without compromising individual positivity. That's what I've been told, anyways. Find out for yourself if there is any truth to that claim.
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